To be honest, I’m not sure if I should be writing this. I’m not used to being this personal or deep and then publishing it on the internet for anyone to read. Also I have very little firsthand experience with men and love, so I can’t even pretend to be the voice of wisdom. But, as I said before, I have to write what’s in my heart and not worry about who’s reading it. So here goes.
I think of myself as a practical romantic, if there is such a thing. I still believe in chivalry, that a man should respect and support a woman, but I believe this should apply to women as well. To expect something but to give nothing in return is not a good relationship. I am pretty old-fashioned in that the physical part of the relationship would be very slow in developing and I would certainly never sleep with someone outside of marriage. But to me, that’s not restrictive, that’s something to look forward to. Since I have no experience, I would have nothing to compare him to and I could enjoy the experience of learning something new with someone that I will trust and love for the rest of my life. Sometimes I wonder if I wasn’t born in the wrong era. But then, earlier eras would have expected me to marry even if I wasn’t in love and I could never do that. In fact, I think the only thing worse than being lonely is to marry someone knowing that you don’t love them but you haven’t found anyone better. I don’t believe in love at first sight but I do believe that God can whisper to your heart that this person is going to be very important in your life as soon as you lay eyes on them.
One of the things I look forward to is learning about all those little idiosyncrasies that make my special person who they are. As Robin Williams said in Good Will Hunting “People call these things imperfections. But they’re not, no, that’s the good stuff. And then we get to choose who we let into our weird little worlds.” I completely understand that the person for me will not be perfect. I would probably find them intimidating if they were! I don’t expect him to sweep me off my feet, strike an incredible silhouette against the setting sun, or impress my family with some amazing accomplishment. He may not be handsome but I will find him attractive because I will love him, and I would know that he felt the same way about me. We may argue or drive each other crazy sometimes, but forgiveness and acceptance would always be a huge part of the relationship. I will wake up every day excited to learn more about this special person whom God has set aside for me.
I know there are guys out there who would meet this description because I’ve met them. Unfortunately they are always already married or in a relationship and of course I would never mess with that. I know there is someone perfect for me out there but I have no idea when I will meet them or if I already have. Perhaps I will never meet this person until I’m reunited with Christ and He introduces us. I hope and pray that I will not have to wait that long – besides, if I meet him in heaven, then I won’t get to know all those little idiosyncrasies! ;)
“Neither one of you is perfect. But the question is, whether or not you’re perfect for each other.” Robin Williams, Good Will Hunting
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