Well, I finally did it... I've signed on for Internet dating! Actually, I've signed up a few times before but I never really took it seriously. This time, I'm not being so restrictive in who I talk to - after all, some people have trouble writing about themselves but they are actually very interesting if you take the time to get to know them. As long as the guy has as deep a commitment to Christ as I do, I'm game!
Unfortunately, I'm rapidly discovering that there might be a real reason why I've been single all this time. I haven't been in a serious relationship since high school but that never really bothered me before. Don't get me wrong, I'm still very happy with my life, but now that I'm looking for someone to share it with I'm noticing a conspicuous lack of interest from the opposite sex. And I cannot, for the life of me, figure out why! When I talk to other people who have tried online dating, they always love to share the terrible date stories or the conversation blunders that they encounter. For me however, I have only ever met one guy from online dating, (which of course was a disaster!) and even though I've tried to contact over 20 guys in one week NONE of them have been interested! When I think about it, I can't remember a time when a guy asked me out since my university years. As I said, I never cared before, but now that I'm paying attention (so to speak) I can't seem to find anyone who is interested! I even tried the outright "would you like to go out sometime" email to someone recently. Want to know what happened? Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Zero response. Okay, I understand that no answer in itself is a "no, not interested" but it would have been nice if he'd at least respond with that - how do I know if he even got the email?!?
Knowing that I'm the only person with this lack of interest problem amongst my friends is... concerning...
Anyhoo, now that you've let me rant about my problems for a few minutes, let me share a couple pearls of wisdom that I have learned from this online dating experience so far. I'm sure there will be more as I continue but I felt these were important, especially if you are considering entering this perilous realm.
Rule #1: Choose an appropriate screen name. "MrCharisma", "divorcedman", or "mumwoodbeprowd" do not inspire confidence.
Rule #2: The photo your friend took of you grinning stupidly over your tenth beer last night may be your most recent picture but it is not, I assure you, flattering in any way. Your driver's license photo is not a good choice either.
Rule #3: It is okay to not share everything on your profile. I appreciate that you want to go for complete honesty and openness but it isn't necessary for you list that your treatments for genital psoriasis are going well.
Rule #4: Try not to insult someone during the initial email stages. You may think someone is less educated than you, only to discover that you are SADLY mistaken when they verbally kick your butt. As a side note, if you are insulted through email, do not take out your frustrations on your computer - it will not apologize, it will just break.
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